We all know the feeling: After many nice messages and maybe a few phone calls, the first date is finally here. The excitement is immense. What should I wear? Where is the meeting? What will we talk about? These are just a few of the many questions that run through your head before the first date.
But don’t panic! We’ll provide you with the most important tips for your first date. From preparing at home to saying goodbye after the meeting. You’ll ace the date!
Before the date: Preparing for the first meeting
Have you just arranged your first date and suddenly the nerves are setting in? Don’t worry, we all feel that way. Now it’s time to keep a cool head and take a deep breath! With these tips, you’ll be perfectly prepared for your date.
Where do we meet? The right place for a first date
There are a variety of options when it comes to choosing a location. How about taking the lead and suggesting a few places? Such an initiative is guaranteed to be well-received! So, what are you in the mood for?
1. To me or her on the first date?
My place or hers? – We suggest neither. Meet in the middle on neutral ground. How about a coffee first? This is the perfect setting to form a first impression. You’ll be in a lively room, which you can easily leave at any time. This is a great option, especially if you don’t know much about the person you’re talking to yet.
2. Spend the first date in nature
A long walk in the fresh air invigorates the mind and provides plenty of potential topics for conversation: There’s always something to discover and talk about. In the city, parks, lakes, or even canals are ideal for strolling. Any silence during the walk is less noticeable and can even be quite pleasant.
3. Discover treasures
A flea market can also be a great place for a first meeting: You can stroll around in a relaxed atmosphere and discover a few treasures. In such an atmosphere, initial nervousness will surely subside quickly, and conversations will be easier.
4. Adventure on the first date? Yes, please!
How about a visit to the local fair? Once you’ve taken a ride on the roller coaster, the adrenaline rush will make you forget all your excitement and ensure you have an unforgettable, fun-filled evening.
5. Be attentive
If you’ve already discussed interests and preferences with your date, think back. Has your potential date ever mentioned a place they’d like to visit or find particularly beautiful? Suggest your first meeting there! Attention is always appreciated.
The perfect outfit for your first date – 4 tips
The location and date have been decided, and the big day is finally upon us. Now all that’s left to do is answer all the questions: What should I wear? Hopefully, these four tips will help:
1. Be yourself
The most important thing here is: Don’t wear something just to please your partner. Of course, that’s important on a first date, but the main thing is: Be yourself. Don’t buy a new outfit just for the first date that you might not feel comfortable in. Wear something you feel really good in. This will automatically make you appear much more confident.
2. Outfit for the first date: How much is too much?
While elaborately styled hair and high heels might look great, an overly chic outfit could be confusing on a first date. Of course, it also depends on the occasion, but an over-the-top appearance isn’t necessarily advisable, especially on a first date. Dress up so that you feel beautiful—that’s enough 🙂
3. Ready, set, naturalness!
This tip is especially important for our female readers: Leave the extra makeup in the closet. Of course, you want to look your best for your first date, but you don’t need to hide under several layers of makeup to do so. Especially if you don’t usually wear much makeup, you shouldn’t do anything different on your date. By the next date, at the very latest, it will be obvious that you were pretending.
4. And what does the man wear on the first date?
The same applies to men: Wear a well-groomed outfit that makes you feel confident and comfortable. If you’re unsure about choosing the right outfit, just ask! The women around you, whether good friends or colleagues at work, will certainly be happy to help you out with something like this. Don’t be shy!
Finally! The first date is here
The day has finally arrived: the day of your first date. You’re probably feeling pretty excited. Here are a few quick tips on how to make the perfect first impression, which conversation topics are particularly suitable for a first meeting, and how to ensure a successful farewell.
The first impression counts: The do’s and don’ts on a first date
Now things are getting serious—you’re meeting your counterpart for the first time, and you’ve probably already spent some time thinking about this very moment. Should you give it a warm hug or perhaps a more formal handshake? We’ll tell you how to do it right:
DOS:
- Greet your date with a warm hug! This will immediately establish a friendly bond and start your date off on a relaxed note.
- Have you already written a lot and feel like you already know the person you’re talking to a bit? Go for it and give them a little welcoming kiss on the cheek! Of course, it’s not for everyone, but if it feels right, go!
Don’ts:
- A formal handshake? Not really the right thing for a first date. After all, you’re meeting because you like each other.Â
- A casual handshake is rather out of place on a first date. It’s more appropriate for good friends.
- Kiss on the hand? No, thanks. That era is long gone.
The right behavior – 5 basic tips you should always follow
How can I behave correctly so that he or she likes me? This is a question most people probably ask themselves before their first date. We can reassure you: As long as you stay true to yourself, you can hardly go wrong. Here are a few extra tips to ensure nothing can go wrong:
- Leave your phone in your pocket – constantly having your phone in your hand comes across as rude and shows disinterest.
- Don’t pretend, stay authentic .
- Be a good listener – your attention will pay off.
- Honesty is the most important thing. No more lies to make yourself look better.
- Pay attention to your body language – no crossed arms or a hunched back – show an open attitude.
Good conversation topics – 5 tips to avoid awkward silences
Are you worried about awkward silences on a first date? Don’t worry. We have five tips you can follow to keep the conversation flowing, as well as questions that are ideal for getting to know each other.
- Start with small talk . This not only lightens the mood but is also an ideal introduction. You can address more in-depth topics later.
- Take advantage of the location . Let your surroundings inspire your conversation topics. If you’re at a restaurant, ask about their favorite restaurants or cuisine, for example. Or ask about the neighborhood or area where you met.
- Consider appropriate transitions to keep the conversation flowing. If you’re talking about favorite restaurants, use that to lead into the topic of home cooking.
- Include details from previous messages or the online profile.
- The topic of travel never gets boring and can provide a lot of input. Ask where your date has been and where they’re planning to go next.
The date is coming to an end – how do I say goodbye properly?
Whether your date went amazingly well or poorly, ending a date is difficult, especially if it wasn’t scheduled for a specific time. What words do you find to signal the end of the date?
A: The date wasn’t your cup of tea?
Say that you don’t see any point in meeting again. Regardless of whether your date deviates significantly from your self-description or you immediately notice that there’s no chemistry.
B: Was your first date nice?
Then there was definitely some chemistry. Tip: End the date when things are at their best to keep the tension alive. Thank him for the great day/evening and tell him you’d love to see him again. A hug not only feels nice after a successful date, it’s also a great way to say goodbye.
C: Goodbye kiss on the first date?
The date couldn’t have gone better, and the spark has definitely flown? Go for it! If it feels right, there’s nothing wrong with a goodbye kiss and a warm hug. If you’re still unsure, try a quick peck on the cheek first.
After the first meeting – when is the best time to get in touch?
Your date wasn’t just nice, but there was also some chemistry? Now the question arises: Who will contact you first? And will your date even contact you? When is the right time to contact you?
To immediately ease your nervousness and anxiety: The sooner you get in touch, the more interested you’ll seem. Waiting the usual three days will likely show disinterest and make the other person feel insecure. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to bombard your date with messages right away.
3 tips on how to get in touch after the first date:
- Send a message that same evening, something like, “Hey, that afternoon was really nice. I’d love to do it again sometime soon.”
- Call the next day and ask how your date went and also tell them how you enjoyed the date. This is a great way to start, and if the opportunity arises, you can immediately arrange a second date.
- If you’re not interested , please don’t ghost . Be honest and at least send a message saying that the date was nice, but unfortunately, the chemistry wasn’t 100%.
Conclusion: With a few tips, your first date will be a complete succes
The first date is always full of excitement, and many questions run through your mind beforehand. The golden rule, however, is and remains: Be yourself. Whether it’s your choice of outfit, your makeup, or the content of your conversation, authenticity is guaranteed to be the best. So, don’t worry too much and enjoy the butterflies in your stomach. We wish you the best of luck on your first date.
