The electric guitars and basses roar, the smell of grilled meat fills the air, and the alcohol flows in record quantities. Of course, among all the people, there aren’t just sweaty, bearded guys in band shirts. You also constantly see pretty girls with lots of bare (and tattooed) skin.
But how do you approach and pick up single women at festivals? After the third beer, at the latest, the thought occurs to you that you’d love to do that. At the same time, as a man, you’re too shy for that and afraid of an embarrassing rejection.
Or you fear that the lady will feel harassed and give you a beer shower in response (which can actually be pleasant in the high temperatures in summerâŚ).
At the end of the evening, you’ll crawl back into your tent alone, annoyed about the day’s missed flirting opportunities.
That doesn’t have to be the case, does it? Keep cool, my friend!
In this blog post, I’ll show you how to flirt with women at festivals without making a complete fool of yourself. Your bravery might even reward you with a hot night in a tent, or at least the phone number of a nice lady.
Festival flirting: Get down to business or keep your hands off?
You’re probably asking yourself this question: Should we even approach women at a festival, or is that just a stupid drunken idea for us men? Won’t you burn your fingers like putting your hand on a hot grill?
No, I tell you: Always go for the cute techno, gothic, metal and rocker ladies!
Such music events are among the best places to meet women âat least as long as you remain charming, polite, and reasonably sober.
Basically, there are many advantages to approaching girls at the festival:
- Most of the women there are tipsy from alcohol, in a great party mood, and eager to experience something. Accordingly, they are open to new contacts and flirting.
- With a little ease, it’s very easy to start great conversations in this place and keep them going for a long time. It’s precisely because of the party mood everyone is in.
- Away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life, some of the partying single ladies are looking for a one-night stand and are happy to be picked up. The cozy tent, after all, offers the ideal opportunity for undisturbed sex. Even mom at home won’t find out…
- You most likely have similar musical tastesâotherwise, your paths wouldn’t cross at this festival. This means you already have a lot in common that you can build on. This applies to both your initial small talk and a potential relationship later on (you could be her dream prince, who knows…).
The 6 biggest no-gos when flirting at festivals
Sure, meeting other singles at music events like this is super fun. But of course, you can also make a few literal faux pas, like stepping into the nasty vomit bucket from the neighboring tent đ
To prevent this from happening to you, I want to tell you the most important mistakes you absolutely must avoid during your boozy festival flirt:
No-Go 1: Typical pick-up lines bring
Please refrain from typical flirtatious remarks like: “Well, weren’t you here last year?” or “You must be an angel. Did it hurt when they clipped your wings?” Also bad are phrases like: “I’m from the ADAC, can I tow you?”
Such pick-up lines are certainly funny and you can laugh about them with your friends after the fifth can of beer or whiskey and coke…
But women like men who put some effort into approaching them at festivals and who joke around genuinely instead of just reciting memorized lines. And perverted remarks will quickly get you a kick in the balls.
No-Go 2: Chatting up girls while totally drunk
Sure, everyone drinks a little at festivals.
But if you’re already so torso that you’re practically stumbling into the woman’s tent or peeping into her cleavage, that’s not very sexy. Besides, you still want to be able to have a somewhat meaningful conversation while flirting, right?
So, drink in moderation if you want to go hunting at the music event there.
Only exception:
The single ladies are at least as drunk as you are and don’t even notice your drunken state.
No-Go 3: Be serious and objective instead of crazy
As mentioned before: People are in a party mood and want to have fun. So, if you want to approach women at a festival, you can’t start anything too serious, but rather present yourself as the cool, happy type (at least at first).
So don’t talk about unsexy killer topics like politics, your stamp collection or the unhealthy additives in your grilled sausages.
No-Go 4: Playing the paying donkey for them
Wouldn’t it be quite gentlemanly to hand the woman a bowl of fries or a mug of beer as a greeting, like a bouquet of flowers? Like a nice gift on a first date ?
Better not! That just makes you look like an idiot, buying food and drinks for the single women in the hope that they’ll give you their attention in return.
In truth, ladies don’t like weak men who are so desperate and allow themselves to be exploited.
At the end of the evening, the beautiful rocker chick is making out with another guy behind the portable toilet, believe me! And then you’ve not only lost your money, but also your self-confidence.
No-Go 5: Approaching girls at a crowded concert
Okay, that’s not exactly a mistake, but it’s rather inconvenient. If you want to approach women at a festival, you shouldn’t necessarily do it at a crowded concert while the band is playing up front.
This is difficult for several reasons:
- The women are focused on the music and staring intently at the stage show, so they’ll barely notice you.
- The music is very loud, so you have to shout into her ear while chatting up her â not very romantic. You can hardly have a conversation in all that noise.
- In the crush with all the crowds it is very uncomfortable and exchanging cell phone numbers is difficult.
Sure, if a good opportunity to flirt arises, for example, because the woman smiles at you or dances up to you, you’ll naturally play along! Otherwise, you’re more likely to approach other singles in quieter places on the festival grounds, like the campsite.
No-Go 6: Waiting for inviting glances from her
If you, as a man, are hoping that pretty ladies will one day make magical eye contact with you or even smile at you invitingly like in a Hollywood movie, you’ll have to wait a long time!
Because at such a colorful festival there are tons of distractions: their friends, the music, games, food, crowds… the party animals won’t even notice your strained looks, unless you have laser eyes like Superman.
So stop trying to make eye contact in vain. Instead, go straight up to someone you like and simply approach her at the festival.
It’s essentially a “cold call.” But since most people in this place are in a cheerful mood, it usually works out well. So don’t worry about coming across as too pushy during a greeting if you haven’t made romantic eye contact beforehand.
Approaching women at a festival: 8 tips
Generally, at these boozy rock, pop, techno, and metal events, there’s a relaxed party atmosphere, like flirting in a club . That’s kind of obvious, right?
Therefore, as a single man, you can be bold and dare to do crazy things when hitting on women at a festival that you would never do in everyday life . Have fun and show it! Of course, you should still maintain certain boundaries and avoid being intrusive, pushy, or offensive.
I mean rather harmless actions, as you will see in a moment… things like slightly spraying the lady with a water pistol or saying a cheeky comment to her hat.
And you’re probably still a bit afraid of strange women , so the mere thought of an offensive flirt makes your heart race, right?
I thought so.
That’s why I’m going to start by revealing a few pick-up strategies that are completely harmless and require little effort. Further down, I’ll cover the bolder approach methods for brave warriors đ
And as I said, women at festivals are much more open and sociable than in everyday life. Therefore, you don’t have to worry about rejection as quickly.
1. Ask them for directions
Especially at large events, the venue is often very confusing. That’s why you can easily approach women at festivals by pretending to be stupid and asking for directions:
- âTell me, where are the portable toilets?â (âŚ) âAre they halfway clean or is there already something lying around?â
- “Where can I find the French fries stand? Those fries you have there look really delicious.” (…) “By the way, what do you think of this current sweet potato fries trend?”
- “Hey girls, do you happen to know where stage number seven is?” (…) “By the way, when is the band XY playing there? Are they putting on a cool show?”
Most of the ladies will be happy to help you, and this will get you talking.
However, you’ll need to follow up with a few interesting sentences after you’ve received the information from your counterpart (as in the three examples shown). Try to keep at it! Otherwise, the flirtation will be over faster than you can say the word “beer mood.”
2. Ask her to hold your drink for a moment
One strategy is to ask the other person at the festival for a small favor.
If a friendly-looking woman is standing in front of the portable toilets, you might ask her if she could hold your beer for a moment. Then you disappear into the filthy plastic toilet to do your business.
While you’re sitting on the chemistry pot, it’s best to think about what line you’ll use to keep the conversation going when she hands you the drink back.
If there is no portable toilet nearby, simply ask a lady to hold your beer so you can tie your shoe.
3. Ask the woman if she will lend you things
In a camping situation like this at a music festival, you’re almost always missing a few essential items (unless you’re overly prepared, like an outdoor and survivalist nerd). Isn’t that right?
Therefore, you can easily approach single women at festivals by going to your tent neighbors and politely asking them to borrow something:
- Lighter or bottle opener â yes, the absolute classicsâŚ
- a power bank if your phone is out of juice
- Ointment for mosquito bites, disinfectant wipes for the toilet
- a bellows for the air mattress
- Nail scissors for torn toenails
- and much moreâŚ
The big advantage: If you have to return the items afterwards, you have a second chance to start a friendly conversation. In the meantime, think of a few flirtatious lines!
4. Invite them for dinner or drinks!
It is already written in the Bible that it is more blessed to give than to receive.
So, why not invite the ladies who walk past your tent to dinner? It doesn’t have to smell like a submissive candlelit dinner. Just say you have some sausages left and they’re welcome to have them.
In a pinch, chocolate cookies, which you rascals from the dark side of the force always have with you, might do the trick.
While the women are munching with you, it’s the best opportunity to chat and flirt. If you then offer them a drink, you’ll have them with you for good.
But be careful not to get taken advantage of as a man! If you get your supplies plundered but end up in the friend zone as a “thank you ,” you should turn to other girls.
5. Ask women if they want to play with you!
“Hello, I want to play a game…” the villain in the horror film SAW once whispered to his victims. Well, you shouldn’t come across as quite so scary when flirting đ
But from simple dice and card games to spin the bottle , beer pong, and Viking chess â camp offers the ideal opportunity to play entertaining (drinking) games. Before you leave, find out which games are good to bring along!
So that you men don’t stay among yourselves, you can approach women at the festival and politely ask if they want to play.
And no, it doesn’t seem strange if you can credibly demonstrate that you are actually still missing players.
Maybe the ladies will come to you on their own when they see that there’s always a cool games party going on in front of your tent and that they can have a lot of fun with you guys.
The advantage: While playing, you can easily engage in conversation with the female singles, as the conversation is more casual and not the focus. Awkward silences shouldn’t arise during your fun competitions anyway.
6. Compliment the outfit or tattoo!
Simple, but requires some courage: Give the woman a sincere compliment on her clothing. It’s best to reference a band shirt she’s wearing:
âHey, you seem to be a fan of the band XY too, or are you just wearing that T-shirt because it looks cool?â
An opener like this is the perfect starting point for a conversation about the band’s music. It also gives you a great common ground.
But don’t play the nerdy smartass who knows every song by heart, including the year they were written. Instead, keep a sense of humor and ask her personal questions to get to know each other ! After all, this isn’t supposed to be a technical discussion between “popular music scholars,” but rather a flirtation, right?
Alternatively, you can compliment the woman on her arm tattoo and then discuss the meaning of the motif with her. Also ask if she’s planning on getting more tattoos, and which ones. Because some people just can’t stop once they start.
7. Draw attention to yourself!
Why approach women at festivals when attractive singles approach YOU first and chat you up? Yes, that can definitely happen â if you have the right clothing and accessories with you that draw enough attention to you.
There are plenty of crazy ideas, similar to those at Carnival . It can be anything from a brightly colored Hawaiian shirt with a straw hat to a steampunk outfit with a top hat to a horned Viking costume.
Or consider bringing a water pistol to give the girls a little (!) refreshing shower while you guys make your rounds around the camp.
Musical instruments you can play are also helpful âwhether it’s a ukulele, harmonica, drums, or singing bowls. This way, you’ll attract attention not (just) through your looks, but through the music you play (or maybe just through the noise you make).
However, this ploy is very bold and only suitable for show-offs who like to be the center of attention. If you, as a man, lack the self-confidence to perform on the big stage, I recommend one of the other flirting methods I described above.
8. Say directly that you want to get to know her!
This is the simplest, but also the most difficult strategy, because it requires a lot of courage. I also recommend it for approaching women on the street . Walk up to the woman with a smile and tell her openly that you’d like to get to know her:
“Hey, I know this sounds a little crazy. But I noticed you from a distance because I find you totally interesting. That’s why I had to come over and talk to you. Otherwise, I would have spent the whole evening being annoyed about the missed opportunity.”
This way, the cards are on the table. And you don’t have to be creative with your line, just honest. The woman can then decide whether to flirt with you or reject you outright.
However, you should only use this direct approach method if there are no people around you who can listen!
It’s very embarrassing for both of you to be watched by a curious audience who would love to get out the popcorn to see how this exciting attempt at rapprochement turns out.
Flirting at the festival until a date â 13 tips
Okay, now you know how to approach women at festivals. But of course, that’s only the first step in seducing them into sex . After you’ve started the conversation, you need to keep flirting with her until she gives you her cell phone number or even ends up in her tent for a hot one-night stand.
Follow the 13 most important rules for festival flirting, from the first small talk to picking up a girl:
1. Maintain certain hygiene standards
Sure, washing can sometimes be a challenge when camping. Still, you’re supposed to shower every day at festivals and always smell halfway decent. And brush your teeth. Or do you want to scare off the girls within a 20-meter radius because you’re competing to smell the most in the portable toilets?
2. Friendly and confident body language
Don’t forget to use positive, confident body language when approaching someone! This includes walking upright, maintaining steady eye contact, and a charming smile (so you don’t look like a serial killer).
3. Transition to personal topics of conversation
Don’t just talk about music, food, and beer; instead, quickly transition from the initial small talk to personal topics (where you live, your job, hobbies, etc.). Listen carefully to the other person and also share things about yourself to gain their trust.
4. Indirectly ask if the lady is still single
If you’re interested in a committed relationship, you should also find out if the woman is still single. Ask innocently: “Didn’t your boyfriend feel like going to the festival here?” Her answer will then reveal whether she’s taken or not.
5. Donât just talk âfactually,â but flirt
If you want to approach women at a festival, remember: People here are here to have fun. Being too serious won’t get you anywhere. Show confidence, have a sense of humor, and start flirting! Try to tease the woman and make her laugh without being offensive.
6. Ask for their mobile number
Once the chemistry between you is right, you should ask for her cell phone number and arrange to meet up that evening or the next day. Exchanging numbers is important because there are often so many people at large festivals that there’s a high risk of never seeing each other again.
7. Invite the group to a shared evening
Invite the women (and men) from the other group to join you for drinks and games in the evening. In this relaxed atmosphere, there’s a good chance you’ll get closer to the attractive woman, even leading to a kiss.
8. Start establishing physical proximity
Don’t just talk, but also make physical contact with the girl without being a groper. Only touching can seduce! For example, you can grab her hand and say, “Oh, that interesting ring on your finger. Does it have a special meaning for you?”
It is also a good idea to invite them to dance together if good music is playing in the background.
9. Create a romantic situation in a one-on-one conversation
If the woman is also interested in you, make sure you and the other woman separate from the group at some point. For example, invite her for a walk or ask her if she wants to buy some food and drinks at a stand with you. Or is there a band playing on some stage that only the two of you want to see? Go for it!
In a private conversation, you can both engage in deep talk and intensify mutual touches to get even closer.
10. Pay attention to the reactions of your counterpart
Whether you’re approaching a woman at a festival or later on during your flirting, always pay attention to her flirting signals . Observe whether she likes your advances or whether you need to slow down. If she’s open to you, it won’t be long before the first kiss on your “date . “
11. Organize a tent just for the two of you đ
If you’re planning on having sex and you didn’t bring a single tent from home, make sure you’re clear with your friends beforehand that you’ll have the tent to yourself in case of an emergency, at least on the evening you plan to pick up your chosen one. Unless, of course, everyone involved is into a threesome or foursome. đ
12. Don’t forget condoms before you arrive
Hopefully, you’ve already packed a large pack of condoms at home â because health always comes first. You’ll regret carelessness later, for example, if you suddenly feel a burning sensation while peeing.
13. Be secretive like a secret agent
Don’t brag about your sexual conquests, because the salacious rumors could make the woman look like a cheap “slut” within the group. Uncomfortable! A true gentleman enjoys and therefore always keeps quiet about his air mattress sports experiences.
